Good friends, I mean really good friends are hard to come by. I remember high school, when having a best friend was the in thing for a while. I never had one, wasn’t even bothered about getting one because I had my support system already. I was blessed with a wonderful mom, sisters I wanted strangle sometimes but still loved, and I was close to a lot of different people. I thought life would stay that way, that I would always have the same friends and people around me, but whenever I told my mom that, she would just laugh and tell me to wait and see. I truly did, I’ve come to learn that people grow up, you outgrow some friends who you were close with in high school because you would see yourselves in the classroom everyday.
You move on to college abroad where distance, time difference and life all get in the way. Some friends will hate you, refuse to give you a chance to explain what caused separation. They’ll say you don’t check up on them when they never check up on you, you’ll cry sometimes because even the ones you still talk to have developed new lifestyles different from yours and you have nothing in common anymore. You’ll compare the new friends you’ve made with your former friends. You’ll want the friendship goals you see on Instagram only to realize that those friends are only good at taking good pictures and not at communicating.
It is during this period that you truly develop a support system, you start to realize that no matter how much your family annoys you, they always check up on you and give you the best advise. You begin to know those friends you can’t live without, the ones that you think about even if you don’t talk everyday. You miss them so much that you pray for them and check up on them. You guys will know if you’re the ‘talk everyday kind of friends’ or the ‘I’ll call you once a month and it’ll be like nothing changed friends’. You pray to God to show you what friendships are useless to you, which to let go of and ask him to maintain the useful ones. Truth is your best friends don’t need a label attached to their names, it’s just a connection that you feel whenever you see or talk to them, you feel it and they feel it too.