Let’s Chat- Realities of studying Abroad | Is it worth it? Part 2

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I’m not sure if I’ve been slacking with my posts or not, but this post was meant to go up last week, following Part 1 of my study abroad realities. Instead, I put up a spontaneous post, but the long awaited part 2 is here, and you should read part 1 before proceeding with this. In this post, I will be sharing the not- so flashy realities of studying abroad.

Home sickness: As I mentioned before, being homesick is definitely top of my list of not so great things. I miss easy accessibility to the kinds of food I want to eat, which is why I didn’t love my first semester at college. When I first came, I didn’t cook much because mummy always did the cooking (should have learnt more from mummy back then), and I was eating for survival, not food I loved. However, I had to get used to cooking my own meals to satisfy cravings. I also cooked with friends which can be a fun way of accomplishing hanging out and eating good food.

Also, I miss having my family around which is normal for everyone, I suppose. You are eager to leave home because your family is annoying, but once you leave, you want them closer than ever.

Making committed friendships: Depending on who you are, this might or might not be a problem. If you are a social butterfly, you’ll connect with people easily and have many casual friends. The downside is that, you might struggle with juggling with many friendships and fail to develop any strong friendships. While making friends, you need to have at the back of your mind that you are looking for few intimate friendships, because you need them the most. You will be doing a lot of choosing and dropping friendships in your college/university years. It’s definitely harder when you are abroad and making friends with people from different backgrounds. You have to leave room for excesses (be accommodating) and extend grace to friends who do things differently.  Continue reading “Let’s Chat- Realities of studying Abroad | Is it worth it? Part 2”

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Let’s Chat- Realities of studying Abroad | Is it worth it? Part 1

Hi there,

I don’t think I’ve shared enough about my college experiences on the blog, and that is about to change. If you don’t know, I’m Oyinlola, a Nigerian student currently pursuing a college (university) degree at Temple University, in the United States. In my next couple of posts, I’ll be sharing both my positive and negative experiences as an international student, and how to make the most your college years.

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So, sit back, read and enjoy;

I was very excited to leave home for the first time in 2014. Excited to explore life and have fun without my parents restriction in a new country. America to me, held endless possibilities. I was caught up in the fantasy of studying abroad that I don’t think I ever thought about what the downside of leaving home would be. I didn’t stop to think of how hard missing home would be or how much growing up I would have to do quickly. It’s been three years since leaving home, and figuring things out on my own. In this post, I’m only sharing the positive experiences, we’ll talk about the negatives in the next post.

Studying Abroad made me define my identity. In Nigeria, I never stopped to think about my ethnicity. The fact that I was Nigerian, African or foreign to some people never crossed my mind. The only differences I noticed were tribal and class differences. As far as I knew, everyone, everything was familiar, and there was nothing to define. I made this statement in class recently, “There is no identity where there is no difference”. You only have to explain yourself when there is something unusual about you, like if you’re in a different country, being foreign is unusual. For example, I have become accustomed to answering the question of where I’m from every time I speak because my Nigerian accent is different. This might be either positive or negative depending on the individual, but it is positive for me. I get to share something about my country almost always, and I love it. I like how describing where I’m from is an easy conversation starter, and often gets people to share a bit about themselves with me too. Besides, I chose to come to a diverse school where I’m constantly meeting people from all across the globe, and learning a thing or two about various countries. It’s great and will  definitely be the best thing about my college experience.

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Before coming to the U.S, I didn’t know how much colonialism shaped the world, and how deep racism ran (story for another day), but now I do. Part of this eye-opener might be because of the classes I’m taking and conversations I’m having, or it might be because I’m old enough to understand things deeply now. Personally, I don’t think that I would have cared much about history like racism as I do now, if I was in my comfort zone at home. Learning about Colonialism and slave trade from another perspective, and seeing its effects in America especially, is enlightening.

I also have more appreciation for home because I miss it. I mentioned above that missing home was the last thing on my mind when I left home. Well, this wasn’t the case after a couple of months alone, and I’m sure this is the reality of most international students. You miss the food, culture, people, and familiarity that you had back home, and you realize how much you took for granted. Most times, you are very excited to eat traditional dishes, and you appreciate home more. I know I do whenever I visit for holiday.

In addition to these, who would have thought that college would be the place God would meet me in a special way? I thought I was good with God coming to America, but I had no idea I was about to encounter him in a mind boggling way. If I studied in Nigeria, I probably would have developed my faith, but I wonder if I would have been pressed to search for the theology and reason surrounding God and His existence, since almost no one questions God’s existence there.

While studying abroad has been a beneficial and lovable experience for me, I know this isn’t the case for everyone. There are times when you want to quit and go back home. Because of this, there’ll be a post next week on the harsh realities of studying abroad, and maybe some tips on dealing with them.

Until then, I look forward to reading your comments, and letting me know how your study abroad experiences have been if you’re currently studying or have studied abroad. If you haven’t, please leave a comment on what you think about my experiences. If you love this post, don’t forget to like, share, subscribe to the blog and tell someone about it!

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Yours Truly……

 

Back To School Reminder || Things you should have ready for school

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It’s back to school season, and I’m not sure how I feel about that yet (ask me in 3 weeks), but I hope you are excited, especially if you’re just starting out in college. I wish you a great semester and year ahead. I hope you are ready to take on this new adventure and to experience life like never before. In the midst of excitement and nervousness, it’s quite easy to forget a few important things you need for school no matter how basic, but don’t worry, I’m here to remind you of them.

Here are 5 things you shouldn’t be forgetting this school year: Continue reading “Back To School Reminder || Things you should have ready for school”

Kemi Adetiba | Why you should watch the ‘King Women Series’

Hello beautiful,

Thank you for stopping by today, you’ll be happy because this is a concise post. I wanted to recommend the series ‘King Women’ to you, if you haven’t heard about it yet.

King Women is a Youtube interview series created by Nigerian media mogul, Kemi Adetiba. The series provides a platform where some successful Nigerian women provide insights into their lives, and how they defeated various obstacles to achieve their goals. The show takes you on a journey of how these women turned life’s lemons into lemonades. They share everything from relationships, to family ties, sexual assaults, career paths and much more. Behind every face is a story, and the stories of these beautiful, groundbreaking women will inspire you.

The videos below are two episodes that stood out to me the most in the series. If you intend to watch other episodes, search up ‘Kemi Adetiba King Women’ on Youtube. In addition, if you want a complete break down of the interviews, fellow blogger Koz has shared some lessons learnt from these women in different posts, you should go read.

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Artist Spotlight| Alessia Cara

Hi people,

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I’m not a music critique in any way, though my recent posts about music might suggest otherwise. I am only a sucker for songs with beautiful messages. I might be weird but I’m not a fan of songs with intangible lyrics (a lot these days), I only listen to them when I’m with other people. This is why my favorite thing (rather, person) of the week is……

Alessia Cara! I might be late to the party but I only discovered her music last weekend after hearing the song ‘Scars to your beautiful’ play on the radio. The song spoke to my core, then my friend recommended another song ‘Here’ to me, and the lyrics had me. The song is for all those who secretly hate college parties, and I was like yep, that’s me. Took me a while to come to my conclusion, but once I did, I literally felt lighthearted. I mean why keep forcing yourself to like something you are not interested in?

I took screenshots of some lyrics to her songs and placed them below. I really recommend you listen to her if you’ve grown tired of the same old songs and are looking for something deeper. Continue reading “Artist Spotlight| Alessia Cara”

Brand Spotlight | Garnier

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Hello Beauties,

How you doing? It’s been on mind to write this post for the longest time, so glad I finally got around to it. This post is about a brand that crept into my life and amazed me some months ago. It’s drugstrore brand, Garnier. I don’t know how familiar most of you are with this brand, because I had no idea the brand even existed till December 2016, but I have been pleasantly surprised with most of the products I have purchased from the brand, and I decided to share with you guys, so here it goes.. Continue reading “Brand Spotlight | Garnier”

Shows you shouldn’t bother watching

Any friend of mine knows I like everything. Hence, why I spend a lot of time recommending good shows to you guys like in this POST . For me to say I hate or wouldn’t watch a show, that show must be really bad. The following shows have made it to my ‘don’t watch’ list and here’s why…..

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Style Inspiration for Valentine’s Day- featuring A dose of fab

Hi guys! I know you’re probably thinking, ‘why is this talkative posting again?’, but this one is to your advantage, especially the lovebirds. As you know, love is in the air, and valentine’s day is exactly one week away. I wasn’t inspired to style an outfit for the day, mostly because I never do anything , it’s just a regular day for me. However, I couldn’t help but fall in love with this outfit I saw Zaria of (http://www.adoseoffab.com/), wear in her latest post.

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THE AFRICA THEY DON’T SHOW YOU- THE MEDIA

Hey guys! Welcome to Hazy Fantasies, thanks for stopping by. You might not know it, but this post is long overdue. Between changing time zones the past two days, I was too exhausted to write. On today’s episode of the ‘Africa they don’t show you’ from the Nigerian perspective, we’ll be talking media. The Nigerian entertainment industry has been on the fast lane recently. Lots of fresh musicians, actors, television stations, and online platforms have emerged. Gone are the days of being just locally known, the industry has gone global. Music artists feature and have been featured by international artists, movie premieres now happen both home and abroad, movies contain local and international scenes. I could not be more proud of my country.

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Recently, Nollywood (the Nigerian movie industry) was announced the third largest movie industry in the world. Who would have thought? But, I know this is only the beginning of upcoming breakthroughs. In today’s post, I’m mentioning different platforms where you can have a taste of what the Nigerian media has to offer. Go watch and have a Nigerian themed weekend!

  1. Netflix: First time I saw a Nigerian movie being streamed on Netflix, I screamed… literally. It was such a joy to see Nollywood get the attention it deserves. These are my favourite Nigerian movies on the platform.

Continue reading “THE AFRICA THEY DON’T SHOW YOU- THE MEDIA”

I met Toke Makinwa- and she had a lot to say

Hi guys! If you didn’t know, I’m back in Lasgidi (Lagos, Nigeria) baby! I only got back Thursday night, and it has been good so far. I’m so jet-lagged right now, but I had to put this post up, before I get too lazy. Even though I was tired from my flight yesterday, when I saw on Instagram that Toke Makinwa was having a meet and greet for her book, you know I had to go. If you don’t know about Toke, you probably missed this post, you should go read it before reading this!

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My first thought when I saw her was, “Wawuu, she’s so light skinned and pretty.”

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The meet and greet was so chilled, we were served free frozen yoghurt by Toksstaar, hung around the cozy fro-yo joint (Sweet Kiwi), and gisted. Toke is funny and down to earth, I expected nothing less. The only glitch with the event was that she arrived an hour late (African time), and we had to wait outside in the scorching sun. Continue reading “I met Toke Makinwa- and she had a lot to say”